Did you know that in the US, people
aren’t supposed to say Merry Christmas any more: it’s Season’s Greetings. How
about going to church ? Isn’t it superficial to go just for the atmosphere, the
carols and greeting neighbours you haven’t seen in a while? Isn’t it a bit
conformist to go to church if you’re not “religious”? Around the world,
millions of people describe themselves as “Christian” without belonging to a
church or attending services.
Merry Christmas Everyone ! |
A lot of us feel that our
spirituality, faith or belief system – whatever you want to call it – is no
longer part of an organised religion. We don’t feel we have a spiritual home in
a specific building called “church”.
This phenomenon is known as
post-denominationalism. This lack of a church where we might feel welcome, is a
kind of spiritual homelessness. It’s not easy to have this post-denominational
faith, where we believe in “something” without having a trustworthy religion to
hang it on. Millions worldwide describe themselves as “Christian” even though
they’re not “religious”.
The secularisation of Christian
values has taken hold. Humanists, for example, believe that God is other people
– which was Jesus’s point, actually. Yet at the same time to admit to being
Christian in certain circles is like saying you’re a spiritual Neanderthal who
takes comfort in fairy tales.
But if we don’t believe in a
particular church, where do we find one? Will the church down the road do? Religious
or not, there are many reasons why going to church is good for us. Teenagers
who attend religious services with parents are more likely to feel greater
well-being, while romantic partners who pray for their “significant others”
experience greater relationship commitment, according to research. Studies
looked at how spiritual beliefs seem to strengthen generally happy marriages.
In families, it’s enough for just one member to be spiritual. “Relational
spirituality” is research that focuses on the ways diverse couples and families
can rely on specific spiritual beliefs and behaviours to motivate them to
create, maintain and transform intimate relationships.
Research shows how this spiritual
“connectness” creates well-being. You don’t have to “believe” to benefit from
being with believers. Whether you are atheist or agnostic, or whatever you
choose, going to church at Christmas is good for you and your family. We’re all
part of this awkward celebration of pagan Solstice and commercial/Christian
Christmas. It really is okay, this Christmas, to go to church, wherever it is
and whatever it means to you. It will be good for you